Learning Freedom from Comparison

Opportunities for comparison are all around us. And it doesn’t add much good to our lives. What could freedom from comparison open up in our lives?

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Learning Freedom from Perfectionism

Lately, I’ve been realizing how laying down specific burdens has opened up more freedom in my life. One of those burdens is perfectionism.

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Spiritual Abuse: My Healing Journey

My journey of healing from spiritual abuse is still ongoing. It has been long, slow, and winding. Understanding what happened in my mind has only been part of the journey.

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Spiritual Abuse: Truth, Lies, and Manipulation

In spiritually abusive environments, some form of truth is present. And some good things might be happening. This makes it harder to identify what is off. The Bible is quoted. God might be moving in some powerful ways. So what exactly is wrong? As I have tried to mentally untangle my own experience of spiritual […]

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Spiritual Abuse: When Church Becomes a Damaging, Dangerous Place

Four years ago, the co-lead pastors of my church at the time were asked to resign because of spiritual abuse. That church had become my family, my community, my home. The news was shocking, but I was also deeply grateful the dysfunction was finally being named. While I am still unpacking the realities and consequences […]

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More than My Trauma

The past year and a half, it has been hard for me not to define myself by my trauma. I’m sure others have experienced trauma much worse than mine, but my story is this: I got hurt in a place I thought was safe. A church. A particular church that I loved with all my heart and to which I gave all of myself.

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