Handling Conflict: Some Tips for the Conflict-Averse

Hating Conflict I’m naturally conflict-averse. I always have been, and I still am. But over the years I’ve learned how to better manage my sensitivity to tension, how to better communicate with those I disagree with, and how to stay true to myself while still being considerate of others. I’m still a work in progress, […]

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Putting Things In Order

The Nitty-Gritty When I was visiting the States earlier this month, I rediscovered my love for organizing. My mom was in the middle of a move, so I had to go through all my stuff and separate the keepers from the trash. The stuff I did keep, I organized. Random stuff I had kept for […]

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The Joy of Serving: Overcoming Disillusionment

Several months ago, I shared about my struggles with obligation as a good Christian girl. I wrote, “Obligation killed my joy.” In the same post, I shared that God had promised to take me deeper into the JOY of serving. He has. Here is some of my journey and what I’ve learned. Disillusionment I loved […]

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Managing Negative Emotions: Some Tips

I am a deep feeler––of happiness, as well as loneliness, regret, and fear. My effectiveness in dealing with the negative emotions has been mixed over the years, but I’ve recently gained some clarity about this area that I would like to pass on. This list is by no means exhaustive. But I hope it may […]

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Self-Affirmation

I’ve taken to calling myself a rock star on a regular basis. Not out loud or anything, just silently, to myself. It’s by far one of the best lifestyle changes I’ve made this year. A couple months ago, my counselor suggested I work on affirming myself more. (By the way, I think receiving counseling is […]

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Some Lessons From the Middle of the Process

I haven’t been blogging much the past month, because I’ve been doing a lot of personal processing. A lot. My thoughts, beliefs, hopes, fears, insights, and regrets have all been tangled together like a giant knot that is slowly getting loosened. And from that mess, I didn’t feel I had anything to share. I’m still […]

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Overly Cautious: How I’m Convincing Myself to Take More Risks

I am a fairly cautious person. For good reason––the world is a dangerous place! You never know what could happen! (Someone could not return your hello..! Or the new menu item you order could turn out to be terrible!) But despite those realities.. I don’t want to stay in my comfort zone. The comfort zone is a […]

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We’ve Made It This Far (Let’s keep going and not give up!)

I am officially 30 today! Unexpectedly, my overriding feeling today is one of accomplishment. Not about anything in particular, just in having successfully made it this far. Three decades of life completed! Yes! Though I smiled to myself ironically as I said that to myself earlier, I think it really is a good attitude to have. We […]

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