Remembering the Darkness

I used to see the dark times as something to forget. I wanted to pretend they had never happened. My struggles and failures, the moments of intense loneliness, fear, and confusion––I just wanted to put all that behind me. The point was to overcome. The point was to move forward. But in the midst of recent […]

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Handling Conflict: Some Tips for the Conflict-Averse

I am naturally conflict-averse. I always have been, and I still am. But over the years I’ve learned how to better manage my sensitivity to tension, how to better communicate with those I disagree with, and how to stay true to myself while still being considerate of others. I’m still a work in progress, but here is some of what I’ve learned […]

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The End of 2017, My Year of New Beginnings

2017 has been a great year. But I am also extremely excited to turn the page to 2018. For the first time in recent memory, I am eager to greet the new year, not because I’m in a rush to say goodbye to the last season, but simply because I am expectant of the good […]

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Living as an Outsider

Today a white woman got on the bus, and I was struck by her confidence. I live in Korea, so she was the only fully white person on board, but she just calmly smacked her gum and found a seat. My first thought was that this was the attractiveness of the “older” (no longer in […]

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Walking into Maturity

Maturity can happen as a natural by-product of one’s life experiences. But it can also be actively chosen. Like when you choose to receive someone’s love based on the way they intended it, rather than on the way you are inclined to interpret it. That’s a choice.

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Made For More

Sometimes I feel like I was made for more, more than what my current life is. Recently I’ve been feeling it rather strongly–this nagging sensation that I have more potential inside me than I’m tapping into. And that nagging feeling is leading to frustration. Could this just be Millennial hubris (as my brother has been saying)? Am I just another example of Why […]

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Searching

Being shaken forces your roots to go down deeper. That’s something I’ve been learning during this 40-Day Media Fast. (Currently on Day 25––I’ve passed the halfway point!) Man oh man, I didn’t foresee how challenging this fast would be when I started it. Not the giving up TV and movies part. That’s been relatively easy. But […]

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Sadness (We All Need It)

I cried a fountain while watching Inside Out. The movie is a surprisingly profound look at loss and the ways loss changes us…

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