Handling Conflict: Some Tips for the Conflict-Averse

I am naturally conflict-averse. I always have been, and I still am. But over the years I’ve learned how to better manage my sensitivity to tension, how to better communicate with those I disagree with, and how to stay true to myself while still being considerate of others. I’m still a work in progress, but here is some of what I’ve learned […]

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Misconceptions About Guarding Your Heart

Since I was young, people have constantly warned me to guard my heart. It was harder than I thought. I kept getting hurt. I kept having so many feelings. At times I wanted to cut off all contact with the opposite sex, because that seemed the only safe course. Don’t make my mistakes. To hopefully save you time and grief, here are some insights I’ve gained the hard way […]

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The Moments That Make Up a Life

Lately I’ve been wondering about the meaning of my life. Right now. In these minutes and hours that are filling my days. What is the measure of these moments? Sometimes it feels like I’m just barely getting by. The past few months have been busy. I’ve been balancing a lot of duties, roles, goals, and relationships, and it’s been exhausting. I’ve […]

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Living Alone: Some Tips

My roommate has been gone for over a month now and isn’t coming back for a few more days. That is SOOO long! Despite being an introvert, and prizing my alone time, I can’t wait for her to come back! In the meantime, here are some things I’ve learned in the past month about solo living: 1. Have […]

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Teacher Life: Everything is Okay

There was this moment yesterday when I caught myself scolding some students for playing the dot game wrong. (You know, that game where you try to connect dots on a piece of paper into squares, whoever finishes the square gets to claim it?) Some of my students had not understood my explanation…

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Teacher Life: Fresh Starts

On Monday, I returned to work after a two-week vacation. I love returning to places after vacation. Everything feels so fresh. The time away gives you space to miss people, to miss the routine. Despite one student’s “No hello, Teacher” greeting on Monday, I couldn’t help feeling all warm inside as I welcomed the kids back. There was one student, however, I was slightly apprehensive about seeing…

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The Treasure that is Relationships

I have a bit of a fear of social awkwardness. I’m one of those people who ducks and hides when she sees former acquaintances on the street. I tend to avoid unnecessary conversations in which I’m not sure I’ll know what to say. It’s nothing against those people. It’s just awkward. So it only took me […]

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One of Those Moments

Tonight my nine-year-old sister said to me, “You’re awesome, you know that?” I was about to play dodgeball with her and our younger brother in the basement, which she had been wanting to do all evening. I suppose that’s what triggered the comment, but whatever the motivation, I have to say it warmed me up inside. Nothing […]

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