Spiritual Abuse: Truth, Lies, and Manipulation

In spiritually abusive environments, some form of truth is present. And some good things might be happening. This makes it harder to identify what is off. The Bible is quoted. God might be moving in some powerful ways. So what exactly is wrong? As I have tried to mentally untangle my own experience of spiritual […]

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Spiritual Abuse: When Church Becomes a Damaging, Dangerous Place

Four years ago, the co-lead pastors of my church at the time were asked to resign because of spiritual abuse. That church had become my family, my community, my home. The news was shocking, but I was also deeply grateful the dysfunction was finally being named. While I am still unpacking the realities and consequences […]

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Accepting the Good

I’ll be the first one to admit that I think platitudes about gratitude are lame. (Though I’m sure I’ve made plenty on this blog . . .) Gratitude cannot be the solution to everything, and besides, some problems need to be wallowed in and solved that way. Right? Waiting In the middle of 2019, I […]

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When It Costs Everything You Have

Tonight is the start of Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. Tomorrow also happens to be the day I start seminary. It’s a new season for me, a very significant one. And tonight, I realized this season needs to start with surrender. Everything is shifting around me. I just moved across the country to a […]

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Transition, Weightlessness & Restoration

At the beginning of the year, I left the home I had built in Korea. I left my closest friends, my job, my routines, and all the futures I had envisioned for myself on that peninsula, and I returned to the States. I was excited, but I was also heartbroken. In one hand, I held hopeful excitement about my new beginning; but in the other, my whole world seemed to be slipping away like sand through my fingers […]

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2019: Moving Back to the US

I have now been living in South Korea for over SEVEN years. That seems crazy-long, but also far shorter than I expected. Part of me thought I would stay here forever. But for now, I’m departing. In a few short weeks, I will be moving back to the States! Despite the fact that I grew […]

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Learning to Be Weak

I have been learning the same lesson over and over the past several months, actually more like the past two years. The lesson is this: I am weak. At times I’ve felt intensely frustrated, stuck, even hopeless, wondering if this season will ever end. But what can I say? God is a thorough teacher. Not Okay […]

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Yet, Still: The Way God’s Love Changes Everything

There are certain basic truths I always come back to. These truths form the foundation of my life, the rock on which I stand and the rock to which I cling. One of those truths is this: God loves me It’s one of the the Sunday school truths that soon grows stale and cliche if […]

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