Learning Freedom from Comparison

October 25, 2023.Reading time 10 minutes.

Opportunities for comparison are all around us. And it doesn’t add much good to our lives. What could freedom from comparison open up in our lives?

Learning Freedom: Building Emotional Boundaries

September 6, 2023.Reading time 12 minutes.

We need relational connection. But how we connect matters. A major way I’ve grown in freedom this past year is in building better emotional boundaries.

Learning Freedom from Perfectionism

July 26, 2023.Reading time 14 minutes.

Lately, I’ve been realizing how laying down specific burdens has opened up more freedom in my life. One of those burdens is perfectionism.

Remembering the Dark Times

April 26, 2018.Reading time 6 minutes.

I used to see the dark times as something to forget. I wanted to pretend they had never happened. My struggles and failures, the moments of intense loneliness, fear, and confusion––I just wanted to put all that behind me. The point was to overcome. The point was to move forward. But in the midst of recent […]

Handling Conflict: Some Tips for the Conflict-Averse

February 14, 2018.Reading time 9 minutes.

I am naturally conflict-averse. I always have been, and I still am. But over the years I’ve learned how to better manage my sensitivity to tension, how to better communicate with those I disagree with, and how to stay true to myself while still being considerate of others. I’m still a work in progress, but […]

The Fear of Failure (and Success): Unlearning and Reframing

December 8, 2017.Reading time 9 minutes.

Recently, I told God that I was scared to be elevated to a higher position of influence. I might fall into pride or lose the intimacy I have with Him. I might forget that I needed Him and become the kind of person who shouldn’t be looked up to. Going higher can do that to people––I’ve seen it even in myself.

Self-Affirmation

July 28, 2017.Reading time 7 minutes.

I’ve taken to calling myself a rock star on a regular basis. Not out loud or anything, just silently, to myself. It’s by far one of the best lifestyle changes I’ve made this year. A couple months ago, my counselor suggested I work on affirming myself more. (By the way, I think getting therapy is […]

Some Lessons From the Middle of the Process

July 19, 2017.Reading time 9 minutes.

I haven’t been blogging much the past month because I’ve been doing a lot of personal processing. A lot. My thoughts, beliefs, hopes, fears, insights, and regrets have been tangled together like a giant knot that is slowly loosening. And from that mess, I didn’t feel I had anything to share. I’m still in the […]