Overly Cautious: How I’m Convincing Myself to Take More Risks

I am a fairly cautious person.

For good reason––the world is a dangerous place! You never know what could happen! (Someone could not return your hello..! Or the new menu item you order could turn out to be terrible!)

But despite those realities.. I don’t want to stay in my comfort zone. The comfort zone is a place of complacency, mediocrity, and stagnancy. We were made for more. There is more life, love, and brightness waiting for us if we are just willing to step out. Yet, the comfort zone is so.. comfortable.

Most of us have this tension inside us, wanting to step forward into the more yet liking being comfortable at the same time. Well, I’ve been thinking about this tension lately and how to convince myself to step into the more. Hope some of these thoughts bring you clarity and inspiration as well!

Here are 3 reasons we stay comfortable and how to combat them.

#1 Lack of Motivation (Laziness)
The Cure: Love

I’m pretty good at being lazy. My ability to waste time often amazes me. I am often content to not take initiative and passively let what happens, happen. If it’s good enough, why bother with it?

But I think kind of thinking robs us of a lot of potential richness in life.

Most people would say we should step out for the sake of: self-growth, self-improvement, to break out of the status quo, to reach our full potential, to not miss out on opportunities, etc. Basically, we should do it for our own sakes.

But I’ve run into a better motivator:


I’ve been realizing more and more that love is the only thing that can motivate me to stick it through when the going gets rough. Love is what compels me to take risks and do scary things. Love is what makes it worth it.

Rather than thinking about this abstract concept of wanting to reach my full potential or achieving a certain level of success, I’ve been thinking about what I love and value. I’ve been challenging myself to love more and to love better.

This does include loving myself. It includes self-care. (So often Christians overlook self-love. We are so afraid of being selfish that we fail to be good to ourselves.) Love also includes ideas and passions––for me, writing and music, among others.

But mostly I’ve been thinking about people. Many, many people. The people who are right next to me whom I’m tempted to overlook. Children who need affirmation, friends who need encouragement, strangers whose days I could potentially brighten. 

Am I willing to step out and take a risk for the sake of someone else?

Am I willing to step out and take a risk for the sake of someone else?

Love is always a risk––there is always a risk it won’t be reciprocated, or worse, that it will be abused or taken advantage of somehow. But when I remember who I am––God’s daughter––I realize that I want to be like my Father, who constantly chooses that risk.

#2 Fear of Getting Hurt
The Cure: See Scars as Trophies

When you step into the unknown, you can get hurt. Physically. Emotionally. Even mentally. It’s scary! But isn’t it kind of exciting at the same time?

We are more resilient than we think.

I recently cut off a little piece of my pinky near the knuckle. When I looked down and saw a chunk of my finger was missing, I was devastated. I thought I had lost a (small) part of myself forever.

But guess what? It grew back.

What we think will alter us forever often only leaves a little scar, something too small to even notice most of the time. Parts of myself I think I have lost actually grow back. Even parts of us that die can come back to life. And when they do, they are better than before.

The truth is, our experiences do change us. 

The truth is, our experiences do change us. The hurts and pain affect us. But the effects aren’t all negative. Our hearts are expanded, our compassion increased. We mature and understand things we didn’t before.

The scars can even be seen as a trophies. A reminder of our boldness, courage, and strength to endure.

#3 Fear of Failure
The Cure: Recognize the Beauty of the Mess

This is perhaps the most obvious fear that keeps me in the comfort zone. There is a very real possibility that I will fail. And no one enjoys failure, right?

My pride hates when others perceive me as less than capable. My pride hates to put on display less polished parts of myself, to flail around and make mistakes (which is necessary if you’re trying something new). To publicly go all in for something, to give it my best, and then to fail?


There is nothing quite like that pain.

So, I often distance myself from what I really want. I rationalize and pretend I don’t care when things go wrong. I convince myself not to go all in. In protecting my reputation, I not only miss out on possible accomplishments, but I miss out on who I could potentially become.

I’ve decided embracing failure as a part of life is the key.

So many people these days seem to expect instant success. That’s just not how it works, and not how it should work. I can’t help but think of Mrs. Frizzle from the Magic School Bus (am I dating myself?): “Time to take chances, make mistakes, get messy!” A rather profound exhortation, now that I think about it.

I used to hate “messy,” but my perspective has changed. Now I can see that messiness is part of the beauty of life.

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We could stay right where we are for the rest of our lives. But I’m guessing that’s not what we want. At least not deep down.

So, let’s recalibrate ourselves to expect failure. Let’s examine some old scars to remind us of how resilient we are. And let’s let love pull us forward––into unknowns, discomforts, and risks.

Let’s get messy! :)



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After living in South Korea for over 7 years, Elizabeth is back in the States finding a new normal. Currently in seminary, she is enjoying unpacking questions of faith in a new context. Amidst the tension of brokenness and conviction, she continues to find grace. And above all else, she continues to pursue the God who inspires childlike wonder.

2 thoughts on “Overly Cautious: How I’m Convincing Myself to Take More Risks

  1. I think this is one of my favorite posts yet! So well articulated and encouraging! You definitely hit on a lot on what I personally do to avoid risks and to stay in my comfort zone. I have some new terms and ideas to pray with now after reading this! Lord, let your love lead me into the unknown! Re-calibrate my heart to expect and embrace failure! Woo! Scary/exciting prayer :D!

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